Solitude

I am moved by a quote by Dr. Ester Buchholz; “Others inspire us, information feeds us, practice improves our performance, but we need quiet time to figure things out, to emerge with new discoveries, to unearth original answers.”

For me, there is something refreshing about solitude. It enables me to grow in many directions - in self-reliance, in enjoyment of life, and in dealing with life’s difficult situations. It is a way of delving deeper within myself and getting to know myself.

At least twice a year I give myself permission to unplug from the noise and distractions of the world and find time for solitude and silence. My phones are off (or on silent) and I literally retreat from the world and all within it. It is impossible to get a hold of me during this period.

I’ve spent a lot of time analysing the possible reasons why I feel the need to do this – to physically cut myself off from the world for a period of time (which usually ranges from two to four days).

Solitude helps me get over challenging times in my life. Taking the time to work through my feelings alone enables me to deal with my emotions, whether it be grief or otherwise. It gives me permission to validate my feelings without being judged by someone else. Only I know how I feel. So, solitude can help me get back on the right track.

Solitude to me is nurturing – like a refuge in a storm. Disappearing usually helps me, but many people do not understand this and prefer to label this act as ‘selfish’. But solitude feels like a sanctuary of safety, security and stability in an out of control world or situation.

Solitude is also centering – it is a place for getting grounded and it provides the objectivity I need to contend with the competing voices of this disorienting world.

Solitude is also listening. In a world where thousands of voices clamour for my attention, solitude enables me to hear the One that matters most. The voice that offers solace, soothing, peace and comfort.

And so, as Monday morning approaches, I will resurface to join the rest of the world. Content that I nurtured. Content that I centered. Content that I listened. Content with my two days of solitary confinefment. Content with my decisions. And content with being me.